This + the fact he disagreed about women working outside the family = pure misogyny. He cheated on you, made you do all the housework (folding his laundry? Cooking all the time? I have never ONCE folded my husband's laundry), screamed at you and broke things, and YOU still feel partly responsible for him cheating?

Um, no. Girl, you were extremely mistreated, maybe even abused. Yes, sometimes both parties are at fault. For example, I don't blame YOU for your emotional affair because he was manipulative and crazy. But do not justify your ex. Hell no.