Ten Reasons To Get Married Without Falling In Love

Marriage is a social partnership, not a Jane Austen novel.

Isvari
8 min readApr 4, 2022
Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash

Before the bitter comments tear down this piece, let me say that I — like most people who chose to wed young — married for love. I can’t imagine myself without my husband, darling, light of my life, etc. because I love talking to him, I feel completely safe with him, and we have built an interwoven tapestry of a life together.

But also, if I’m being honest, it’s because I don’t want to handle my own taxes.

While I did get married for love, I didn’t stay married for love. This is not because my husband and I have been through a torrid season of separation, but because while we have stayed in love, we would not have been able to stay together if we weren’t also similar people possessing similar sensibilities and desires in life and having the strength and smarts to work out some thorny situations we were both thrust in. Basically, we wouldn’t have stayed married if we hadn’t gotten married and been the sort of people who did.

Practicality. Bureaucratic necessity. The real world. These are three things that will rear their ugly unromantic heads into even the most beautiful of relationships.

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Isvari

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