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June is Pride Month. It’s also my first Pride Month since coming out online. I’ve always been out to friends and family, but for some reason I never felt confident enough to talk about it to millions of strangers. Now, not only am I out and proud, but I was just recognized as an Out Leader in National Security.
In honor of that honor and just the general honor it is to represent the LGBTQ+ community, here are your burning questions about being asexual answered.
Do asexual people have sex?
Many asexual people do. Many don’t. (This is true of straight people too by the way…) There really isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer. Being asexual to me just means you don’t feel sexual attraction for random people, no matter how pretty they are. Some people get attracted over time to a long-term partner. Some people only want to have sex once they’re in love. Other people never do. Finally, sometimes sexuality is fluid and changes over time. That doesn’t take away the fact you’re asexual if you identify as asexual.
Are you sure you’re asexual?
Hahahahaha, yes. And it doesn’t take that long for most of my friends to figure it out.
